So why aren’t they listening?

Blaise Pascal (not Mark Twain)[1] said it best, if he had more time he would have written a shorter note…

Be honest, sometimes you wonder: why am I, the only one who gets it? Why aren’t they listening? We could have accomplished some great things and if they just did what I asked, we wouldn’t be in this mess.

Stop… think again…it’s not them…it’s YOU.

Whether leading a group of people at work, a house full of teenage kids, or a bunch of friends on a group vacation, there will always be challenges. However, none more frustrating and quite frankly, spirit killing than thinking and feeling that people aren’t listening to you.

If you want to lead effectively, if you want to be heard, if you want things to get better, then take the first step towards improvement and … listen.

These 5 points can help you take a step back and see (or hear) the problem… starts with giving up on being the victim. Fix you first, and then others will follow.

Know your stuff know when you don’t

Your impact can be more profound with a question instead of a statement. A question generates a dialogue; a meaningful interaction, an experience that will nurture a more collaborative effort. People will give you their attention, if you give people a reason to trust your perspective, knowledge…and humility.

Know what you need, then be specific about what you need

Be specific, be direct, be clear…and be heard. There is a reason people pay attention to a “call to action”.

Believe in what you say and demonstrate passion – for the topicand the people listening

People can tell when you have no passion about the topic or about them. If you don’t care, ask yourself, why are you talking about it? Why are you wasting their time?

Leave your ego at the door…remember, you want them to listen.Make it about them

Be grateful for the fact that you have people that may listen to you. Be grateful that they are there to support you and your needs. Be grateful you are in a position to lead. Just be grateful.

Use your words… choose your words

Quantity does not equal quality. If it takes too long to get to the point, you’ll lose their attention at “hello”. Blaise Pascal (not Mark Twain)[2] said it best, if he had more time he would have written a shorter note…enough said.

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